Still looking

I am still looking. Unfortunately what I'm seeing isn't appealing. Is it me? Am I expecting too much? Maybe but I'm tired of compromising my wants. I have settled for less than what I felt I wanted in my life for so long and I cannot do it anymore. My ex thinks I'm afraid to get into a relationship. He mistakes my commitment to myself with fear because that's how he operates. I am absolutely ready for a real relationship but that requires a man who is also ready. It also requires that he be what I need in my life. The last guy ended up being as big a whiner as my ex-husband. I will not have that in my life. My thought is either do something about the situation that is vexing you or learn to accept it. Neither involves whining.

So I will continue to look but I think I'm ready to expand my life to include activities that may lead me to meet people who are like-minded. I do think I will go sit in on a few meditation groups. It is a passion of mine and I want to share it with whatever partner comes into my life so it might be wonderful if I could meet him there. I just have to get motivated to go. As Anais Nin says (paraphrased) - when the pain of staying the same is greater than the fear of change - that's when it will happen.