A successful first date

I went on a first date Friday. We met at a Starbucks for coffee and ended up talking for 2.5 hours. He's intelligent, educated, and open-minded as well as spiritual. All are requirements for me. He's also artistic so that is a huge bonus. I was a little uncomfortable with his use of cursing but I attributed it to nervousness possibly. We are going to meet for dinner tomorrow night so I'll see if that continues. I'm no prude but I really don't appreciate a conversation that is constantly punctuated with "F" this and so on.

I've been corresponding with another man named Brian. At first I was hopeful because he too seemed quite spiritual. I'm now picking up depression vibes from him. I've already done that too many times in my life and while I'm able to empathize, I won't give my energy to that right now. I wouldn't leave someone who found himself experiencing some depression but I won't start a relationship with someone in the throes of a depressive episode. I'm not a therapist and I don't intend to be one to a date. I found that with Rick, the man I dated last year. He was definitely struggling with depression and it felt a lot like my marriage very quickly on in the relationship. I want to share my time with someone who has already done their healing or at least most of it.

So we'll see how it turns out with Stephen. He seems a bit eager for a relationship and that's a little disconcerting but I'm not ready to make a judgment on that. He's probably just lonely. And horny. He's just going to have to wait.